What is Your Communication Cycle?


 

What is Your Communication Cycle?


Posted by Jean Pollack in Coaching, Relationship Coaching 19 Apr 2016

RelationshipsI’m afraid to tell her how I feel…afraid of an argument

I have to walk on eggshells and feel judged by him…

In the above scenario, the couple’s cycle is: He does what he wants. She feels ignored. He shifts the blame to her. She doesn’t want confrontation and pushes things under the rug. They make up and get along (a honeymoon period). She tells him her feelings. They agree feelings are important until the cycle begins again.

He said…
When we argue, my girlfriend gives me a bad attitude. I want a better relationship.

She said…
I want to discuss situations with him instead of arguing.

He said…
She cares about how she looks and puts pressure on herself and my questioning of her whereabouts makes her irritable. I become frustrated when she is irritable and I respond with irritation and anger. An argument begins.

She said…
I want to let go of my anger toward my husband and learn how to decrease my stress. My partner and I have trouble communicating our feelings and needs.

He said…
I’m having trouble dealing with my ex wife. She took my house, my children and has a new boyfriend parenting my children. I have so many feelings that I need to discuss.

These are just some of the many topics I have heard from couples for the past twenty years. I’ve worked with thousands of couples and have developed an easy, personalized way of helping to improve their communication, happiness and ability to meet their needs together.

During our time together, I help people find their unique cycle of communication and then we break that cycle so a personalized plan can be created to use on a daily basis. Communication improves when they learn to break through the habit of their established pattern. It’s very exciting to see couples find a way to love each other again.

I offer a free 15 minute session to discuss your relationship so I can help you move on to a more fulfilling life with those you love. Contact me today!

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